There are many things that people find difficult in life, but I’d venture to guess that one of the most common things people struggle with is asking for help. Let’s talk about that….
Asking for help is tough. It’s tough when things are going well in your life. If things are going badly it seems to make it ever harder to reach out and ask for help. Why is that?
I think it’s pride. I really think that’s all it boils down to. If we ask for help we may be perceived as weak. No one wants that.
So instead of asking for help we white knuckle it. We grin and bear it. We take one for the team. We handle our own shit. We make due or go without. We struggle. We make life harder than it has to be.
But we feel strong. Our pride is intact. We WIN!
When trying to be all that we can be there will be moments where we must ask for help. It’s imperative that we do. No one can do everything on their own and walk away whole. We may get there, but at what cost?
Being strong and independent are both fabulous characteristics. Wanting to make it on our own is a great goal.
But no matter how well we plan or how tough we are, eventually we are going to need help and letting our pride get in the way only hurts us and slows our progress.
Asking for help can be as simple as talking something out with a trusted friend or asking for guidance from someone who has been where you are. There it nothing weak about that. It’s smart and healthy and by lessening your load a bit, it can make following your path so much easier.
So next time you’re feeling overwhelmed be confident enough to relinquish some control and ask for a little help. Start small…dip your toe in the water and then breathe.
Thanks for Reading~