Penguin Pointers – No

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I think this may be one of the best times of year to talk about this Penguin Pointer. Most people spend the holidays rushing around trying to get everything done, forgetting  something along the way. Lists are made…commitments are made….and there is general overwhelming feeling in the air. It doesn’t HAVE to be that way.

N=No.

Saying no can be REALLY hard for some people. Me included. I’m not sure what the hangup is…fear…confidence…guilt? Maybe something else…maybe all of the above.

It’s tough to get to the point where you can simply say No to someone when asked to do something, or go somewhere…and so on. But once you’ve mastered it, it can free you from so much stress.

No..I have not mastered it, but I’m better at it. What I needed to learn was

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Can you imagine!?

After learning that, I had to practice it. That’s really friggin hard. I blame guilt for my lack of ‘NO’ ability. I don’t want to hurt the person’s feelings or let someone down. I don’t want to look bad.

What I needed to realize is that when I do something that I don’t want to do and that I don’t have to do…one of 2 things generally happens. Either I feel resentful, or I’m not bringing my A game to the situation. So even though I don’t want to hurt someone or look bad…am I really going to look good or make someone else feel good by half-assing something?

It takes practice…that’s ok. It takes time..that’s ok too. We just need to try.

Because we are worth the practice and time that it will take. We are allowed to say No…’just because.’ We just have to take that power…and own it.

Thanks for Reading~

nikkisig


20 thoughts on “Penguin Pointers – No

      1. Never, but the inability to say no can leave us overwhelmed and our already full plates overflowing with things to do. I’ve learned to say no selectively (most times). 🙂

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  1. I’m already struggling with this, and the question hasn’t even been asked yet. It’s just that I know it is coming in the next few days, and I don’t know how to say no to something I have allowed for many Christmas’ past. It is a tough one.

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    1. Oh my heart goes out to you Barbara. I have a potential situation coming up and I know in my heart that I need to face it head on and just say no, but I honestly don’t know how I’m going to do it. I’ll be thinking about you. HUGS ❤

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    1. I’m sorry to read that Eleanor. I think you said it so well. I was just talking to my son about this. Trying to find that line between saying no and meaning it, but also not being hurtful. It’s a hard thing to balance especially when you have to say no to someone you care for. ❤

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    1. I think it does too. It’s really hard to make yourself potentially look like the bad guy. I wish I didn’t feel that way…that saying no equals a bad guy…but in some situations that’s just going to happen and we all have to be brave enough to face that. ❤

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  2. It is an odd business. Most two year olds seem to understand “No!” quite well, so well, in fact that we spend considerable effort to teach them its not OK for them to say it (although they have to learn to tolerate it being said to them). Then, some time later we have to learn it really is not only allowed, but necessary.

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  3. Saying no can be difficult sometimes. It depends on the situation and what the results will be.
    I have learned to to say “no thank you” without giving an explanation. And I have learned not to feel guilty about it.
    For those (rude) people who can not except “no” for an answer can be persistent. And they try so very hard to try and get me to change my mind so it will fit to what they want. I learned to just walk away. Eat my dust.

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