I think this may be one of the best times of year to talk about this Penguin Pointer. Most people spend the holidays rushing around trying to get everything done, forgetting something along the way. Lists are made…commitments are made….and there is general overwhelming feeling in the air. It doesn’t HAVE to be that way.
Saying no can be REALLY hard for some people. Me included. I’m not sure what the hangup is…fear…confidence…guilt? Maybe something else…maybe all of the above.
It’s tough to get to the point where you can simply say No to someone when asked to do something, or go somewhere…and so on. But once you’ve mastered it, it can free you from so much stress.
No..I have not mastered it, but I’m better at it. What I needed to learn was
Can you imagine!?
After learning that, I had to practice it. That’s really friggin hard. I blame guilt for my lack of ‘NO’ ability. I don’t want to hurt the person’s feelings or let someone down. I don’t want to look bad.
What I needed to realize is that when I do something that I don’t want to do and that I don’t have to do…one of 2 things generally happens. Either I feel resentful, or I’m not bringing my A game to the situation. So even though I don’t want to hurt someone or look bad…am I really going to look good or make someone else feel good by half-assing something?
It takes practice…that’s ok. It takes time..that’s ok too. We just need to try.
Because we are worth the practice and time that it will take. We are allowed to say No…’just because.’ We just have to take that power…and own it.
Thanks for Reading~