Healthy Balance


This should be an update but really it’s not. It’s more of an ongoing discussion I have with myself and now with you…ha! Lucky you! 😉

About a week or two before the new year I knew I needed to get myself back on track if I ever want to find that true healthy balance I long for.

So that’s what I did. I set a realistic goal for my Birthday in early March. So far, so good.

What am I doing?

Welp…I went all sorts of  back to basics:

I am tracking my food. Watching my portions. Planning my meals. Drinking my water. Skipping the abundance of crappola that is available this time of year. Eating enough calories (is it just me or does this one burn anyone else’s butt too? How can I be this over-weight only to find out I’m not eating enough? Not fair world…not fair!). But on that note…remember this the next time you are tempted to assume that just because someone is over-weight…it doesn’t mean they eat cartons of ice cream or bags of chips. Some of us eat salad every damn day drink enough water for a horse and are turned off by sweets!

AND lastly…I’m refusing to use the whole ‘starting over’ mindset.

I’m not starting over. For me personally that is the worst thing I can tell myself. For me…it’s like saying I learned nothing or accomplished nothing. So not true!

I’ve been trying to get a handle on my weight since I was a child. I know what to do. I most definitively know what not to do. It’s a matter of doing it consistently over a long period of time without beating myself up or getting frustrated or holding myself up to an unrealistic standard, or stressing out or….giving up.

Being a woman of a certain age also adds to the difficulty of losing weight…so that means we must have more patients and more staying power but mostly it means we have to celebrate all of those none scale victories (even though the scale victories are freaking awesome) because there is SO much more to life than that damn number.

I will press on and I will succeed.  I just need to be real and true and look at all of this as a process to balance not a sign of my weaknesses or lack of perfection.

I think we all should look at it that way. How about you?

Thanks for Reading!



28 thoughts on “Healthy Balance

  1. You have a wonderful way of looking at things. Not to worry, I completely understand larger people aren’t just scarfing down whatever they can get their hands on. There are genetics involved, metabolism, so many things. I get that. Best of luck with achieving your goals!

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  2. Nikki, this is quite a complex subject, but you have nailed it…and I totally agree with you. It is a process to balance, and certainly not a sign of weakness. Rome was not built in a day, so keep going, and you will succeed. 🙂 x

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  3. I’m not a fan of the “starting over” mindset either. That’s why I decided to set 2017 goals instead of resolutions. For some reason resolution, to me, feels like I’m fixing something wrong instead of making forward progress… I hope you keep finding your balance 🙂

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  4. You always have the greatest attitude. I hate ‘starting over’ too, it’s just another way of saying ”you have failed”. Go with it sisterfriend, you are on your way to where you want to be.


  5. I have also found that even just a little bit of exercise helps as well. Just be consistent and try to do a little bit more each time you exercise. I know it’s tough! I have tried 1 million kinds of diets, and none of them work. For me it’s a balance between but I eat and exercise.

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  6. Balance is so incredibly important and you HAVE to be satisfied with progress, even if you aren’t seeing it on the scale or in the size of your pants! Small changes, smart changes, and making healthy living a priority! I’m right there with you! You can do it!

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  7. I have actually caved to the resolution thing, I just don’t call them New Year’s resolution. I tell myself out loud that “I resolve to…” and it makes me feel more powerful!
    A suggestion, if you don’t mind. As a woman in her 40’s, I have found that the most effective thing you can do to get a handle on weight is to lift, and lift heavy! This cranks your metabolism so that you burn more 24/7 and sculpts your body into the goddess shape that you are envisioning!
    Also don’t forget to do intervals during cardio. You won’t need to waste nearly as much time on it (I find cardio completely boring!!) and will make it MUCH more effective!
    You should check out my journey @
    I’d love to hear your input!

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      1. Cool! Thanks! There’s not a lot really, but I hope to do more this year. I feel as if I’m starting well and look forward to having more time to blog as I get more organized!!


  8. I totally agree with the idea that you aren’t starting over. You can do this! And not only have you inspired me to start losing weight again you’ve given me an idea for a post! You’re kind of an all-purpose friend!


  9. I think you totally nailed it! Awesome read. I’ve struggled with my weight for the last 8 years. I’m down 51lbs in the last 7 months and I must say this has been a journey to remember. Check out my story when you get a chance


  10. Hi Nikki, thanks for sharing i got tears because im struggling with my body too. and this is why im starting my blog and i really like yours, would you please go to mine and let me know your thoughts. I really would appreciated. Thanks in advance, now im following you so ill keep in touch. Regards GT


  11. I love that article, I am just like you! I hate sweet stuff and still I gained 30 pounds in the last 4 years, my conclusion is that I must be one of those ‘little pickers, wear bigger knickers’ girls! just lost 12 pounds in the last 6 weeks, so its a start! good luck to you, I’m following you!


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