Penguin Ponderings – Brene Brown


This past week I haven’t felt much like blogging. I could blame it on the weather…it’s been so beautiful I can’t seem to focus on anything but how beautiful it is. But in truth I’ve been thinking a lot about my last 2 posts and the general reaction I’ve gotten from most of you. It’s all quite touching and I must admit it made me feel very supported and encourages me to  continue to own my story.

In fact that term was used by a couple different people in the comments.

It can be a difficult thing…owning your story. What’s even harder is owning your story without explanation or apology. To be clear, my apology was not for or about my story…it was for clarification purposes only. It was to show compassion and understanding of real addiction.

Moving on though…..

When you own your story it can’t own you. Any Game Of Thrones readers or watchers here? Do you remember when Tyrion Lannister said:

‘Never forget what you are, for surely the world will not. Make it your strength. Then it can never be your weakness. Armor yourself in it, and it will never be used to hurt you.’ that’s a little dark for what I’m going for…But the idea is there. If we take our story…which for most of us will include some pain, suffering, loss, disappointment, and maybe even some shame….and we find a way to use those things as a strength…we win.

Using our story for the betterment of ourselves and others is something only we can do. Everyone’s story is different. Two people who have struggled with the same issue will have very different stories. We may be able to relate or understand, but you and you alone know how it feels for YOU. Sharing that to help someone else or to motivate you to a better place is something only YOU can do.

It can feel scary and even daunting.  And yes…it takes major bravery.  But in the end, you will have walked through fire and come out the other side stronger and much more compassionate to others.  The end result justifies the pain.  The hard work will pay off. The peace of mind of finally being free from the past will heal you.

Own your story and then sit back and feel the pride and power in doing so.

Thanks for reading!




23 thoughts on “Penguin Ponderings – Brene Brown

    1. Hubs started watching Vikings a little while back and when I learned about Lagertha I knew I would be all in. Started it the other night! 🙂 I stopped with GOT too. Loved the books. Love some of the casting in the show but over-all it just irritated me because of the changes from the book. They can completely change how someone would view a character with the slightest thing and that was driving me bonkers! Now if only GRRM would get to writing so HE can finish the story instead of the show finishing it for him. Grr. 😉

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  1. While I was writing my book, I really, really, really struggled over what to add and what not to add. In the end I figured that I needed to “own my story” and tell it all. I felt a huge burden lifted when I came to that realization! People like it or respond to it, that’s wonderful if they don’t then They can move on! Keep on!!

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  2. You’re absolutely right Nikki! When we own our weakness, it can never be used against us. ❤
    I love Tyrion Lannister…he’s very wise and I do remember him saying that to John Snow. (Now we can add Game of Thrones to things we have in common in addition to Harry Potter, Wuthering Heights, & The Walking Dead!) 😊

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